Thursday, January 17, 2013

Boys and Girls

I've been pondering the whole man vs. woman thing today, mulling over how vastly different we are.  I feel compelled to write about it.  I am approaching this in a round about, humorous manner.   I'm not afraid to laugh at myself, especially on this particular subject.  I'm thinking that a few ladies who read this just might get where I'm coming from.

I have been fascinated with men for most of my life. They are an intriguing bunch.  Attempting to demystify the male species has been a fun challenge. It began when I was a young girl piecing together my relationship with my parents, specifically my Dad.  My mother and I seemed to be on the same wave length (until I became a teenager) but I just couldn't always jive with Dad.   My quest later continued with boyfriends, male friends, boyfriends that my friends needed help with, more boyfriends, the man I married and so on.

Today I can honestly tell you that I know absolutely nothing.

I do know men are cute, funny, masculine, necessary for life, fun, wonderful, etc. and we girls would be lost without them.   I know the basics, if ya catch my drift.  All the research and all the years I've been practicing one might think I would be an expert.   It would seem I would have developed some perceptivity with men.   Sadly, they continue to be an enigma.   So that leaves me....where?  Twisting in the wind?  Pretty much.

My approach to almost everything....first dates, breakups, friendships, dating, re-connections, arguments, marriage and even simple conversations with men....has historically been completely different than the man's approach to the same subject.   I am sure you can imagine the frustration.

Now to be fair, I'm sure we women are probably a mystery to men as well.  I'm just making an educated guess.     I may have frustrated a man on a couple of occasions.   I can't be sure, of course (said tongue in cheek).

Wouldn't it be interesting to gain some insight into the thinking of the opposite sex?  It would make life so much easier.  I've spent a great deal of precious time trying to figure things out on my own because there often was no explanation given.  There has been much heartbreak.  I have been left to wonder what happened...really happened...on more than one occasion.  I've had no choice but to make assumptions.  And we all know what happens when we assume.  Right?

So for thought.  The women in your life are probably working just as hard at the attempt to figure you out.  Give them a little break.  Talk to us!  A little communication goes a very long way and eliminates the need to make assumptions. Ladies?  Let's return the favor.

Things in life are not always black and white.  I very frequently see gray.

In a nutshell....since I know very little even in finishing this post, I suppose I'm going to have to keep on working at it.    If you have any light to shed on the subject, hit me up.

I can use all the help I can get.

Peace out!


  1. Men are still an enigma to me too LOL! Yes I’d love to gain some insight into men. If you figure it out first, please let me know! More communication needed on both sides, definitely. For now, men are from Mars; women are from Venus. :)

  2. Well if you want a place to start: Men are just as confused by women. More so, in fact, as we're fairly certain you're messing with us deliberately.