I find more often than not, if I stray away from this daily self appraisal the negative parts of my character tend to pop up. I can't allow this to happen. In my quest for my better self to be forefront in my life I have to be diligent with this. Keep moving in the right direction.
Recent events with a loved one in my life have me pondering my actions. I keep finding myself in the same situation and I continue to cling to hope that things will change. But what I have failed to accept is I have no control. Things just aren't always going to go my way. I cannot dictate another persons actions. I can only govern my own.
Repeating the same thing over and over expecting different results. Insanity? Such a harsh word. But I have to wonder, if I allow people or situations to affect me and if I repeatedly allow myself be to be hurt, isn't that insanity? When does hope for the better become unbalanced?
I just answered my own question. A clear indicator should be that I have repeatedly been hurt. To remain hopeful that things will magically turn around is what is out of balance. I have become codependent. This inhibits change.
It is a fine line, isn't it? To strive for positivity and yet not go too far into blindness of self. In effect, inaction. Hope can only get me so far. Then it's up to me. Rather that sit idly by and allowing things to happen to me I can turn it around by taking action. In the interest of my body, mind and spirit I cannot remain complacent.
I can continue to work on me and that's what I plan to do. Continue being my usual positive self and let others handle their own stuff.
I recognize that I've been somewhat vague in this post. Sometimes it's unwise to reveal all of the facts surrounding a situation. I hope my meaning shines through.
Thanks for listening, you always help me. Smile.
See you soon!
Knowing what decisions we should make is easier in our heads than in our hearts. May you find peace in your decisions no matter where they take you.
ReplyDeleteThank you Barbara!
ReplyDeleteMichelle, there are some people you can't reach or please no matter what you do. So it's better spend one's time and energy on more uplifting endeavors.
ReplyDeleteAgreed! That is certainly taking positive action :)
DeleteSounds like you're on the right course, Michelle, being true to yourself. Problems such as the one with your loved one have a way of working themselves out once you move on.
ReplyDeleteI sure do hope so Kris! Sometimes it feels like circles...but moving forward is the only solution.
DeleteYou are tough on yourself Michelle!
ReplyDeleteFor what it's worth, one method of dealing-
Where the outcome can be influenced-
Do your very best.
Where the outcome cannot be influenced-
Forget it & move on.
Yes, I know, it does sound sooo simple.
Cheers, ic
Simple solutions are often the best, Ian! Thank you!
DeleteMichelle, I like your nightly self review. Repeating the same thing over and over expecting different results sometimes happens to me too. If fact, it’s a situation I’ve been in for quite a while now. Yes, it is a fine line. I think it happens because we want to be positive and we’re overly hopeful. Moving forward is the right approach. I understand your vagueness here, I often need to be vague too when it comes to certain personal matters and blogging or commenting. Your meaning shines through. I’m pulling for you!
ReplyDeleteThank you Marilyn! I find if I start and end my day this way then it almost always brings a better tomorrow! I appreciate what you said. I've been holding onto this situation for a long time. :)
DeleteI didn't think your post was vague at all. The fact that you do this daily inventory shows great discipline, which of course doesn't surprise me given your other activities. I love that you work so hard at being the best you that is possible. Imagine the world we could live in if everybody did the same. Let the other people do their own work and don't spend time worrying about their journey. That positive energy you put out there every day will come back to you 10 fold. You deserve it!
ReplyDeleteWow, thanks Penny! I wasn't always this way and I don't take one second of life for granted. Why not be positive? It's the only way to be :) Your comments were so heartfelt and I so appreciate it! So glad we are friends!
DeleteHi! I love the colours on your blog! And the pictures of the beach. Makes me want to go there.
ReplyDeleteHi back! Thank you so much for checking me out! :)
DeleteIn my opinion, Hope, Faith is the foundation of all positive things. True, there has to be some realism involved. For example, it does not good to have hope that someone will give you a million dollars; it's usually best to go out and earn it.
ReplyDeleteHowever, to have hope that things will get better, and that you will be better... again, the foundation is there if you are even worried about it, thinking about it.
For me, I learned a long time ago NOT to worry about what others think (I also don't go around trying to be a putts so that people will think bad about me either). People are going to think what they think, and the only thing I have control over is what I am putting out there, not what comes back.
So true Ronald. I have to remember, it is none of my business what other people think about me! And it's all about taking positive action. Thank you for your feedback, we are on the same page :)
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